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People who need people are the luckiest people.
Time: 9:30 AM
Date: Thursday the 8th January 2009
“I
sought my soul but could not see. I sought my God and he alluded me. I
sought my brothers and sisters and found all three.” Anonymous
“Each
man has only one genuine vocation—to find the way to himself…. His task
was to discover his own destiny—not an arbitrary one—and live it out
wholly and resolutely within himself.” Herman Hesse; Demian
This blog was supposed to be on the topic of commitment. It had a catchy title and what I convinced myself to be a clever angle. I’d almost completed it and handed it onto my mum for proof reading.
But something — or someone — was missing from this article: Me. I realised there was something more important and far more personally difficult for me to write about: The task of reaching out to other people. To read on click here.
Inner Healing And Transformation
Time: 4:35 PM
Date: Friday 5th September 2008
"It's those who go to the greatest depths to fix themselves that become the most beautiful people." Anonymous
“Michael, when I look at you I feel like crying a river of tears.” said Disha. This group facilitator, a vibrant looking women in her thirties, was pointing to my pain — my tears.
Tears that had been left unshed. Disha had confronted me as I stood in front of a group of people. All eyes were on me.
We had all come together with the hope of personal transformation. And it was only moments before Disha exposed my pain that I had given my group a big sales spiel.
I told them about my success and current state of happiness. To read on click here.
Does The Universe Support Your Relationship?
Time: 12:35 PM
Date: Tuesday 8th July 2008
“My most important insight is that there are two different sources of learning: Learning from the experience of the past and learning from the future as it emerges.” Otto Scharmer. Theory U (2007).
“To know the patterns is subtle power. The subtle power moves all things and
has no name.” David Hawkins. Power Vs Force (2002)
"In this game I make the rules.
I roll you like a ball and chase you
when I choose." Rumi
Recently a woman asked me what I thought made for a great committed relationship.
She was writing a column and gathering different perspectives. After some umming and ahing , I spluterred out, “If the universe doesn’t support a relationship, no amount of work can make it successful.” Then I confessed, “Like most principles, I learned this one the hard way!”
For twelve years I was in a committed relationship. One day, my partner came home from an overseas trip with the Young Entrepreneurs Organisation.
She walked into my study and told me “Mike, I want a break from our relationship.” I knew it was over. I stopped breathing. To read on, click here.
Time: 1:15 PM
Date: Friday 2nd May 2008
In my mid twenties I had a terrifying dream. In this dream, I felt so lonely and sheer dread for my life. I took out a loaded pistol and placed it into my mouth.
I felt the metal gun barrel against my teeth. I began pulling the trigger. Instantly, I became aware I was dreaming.
Still in the dream, but now half awake, I pulled the trigger. The back of my skull blew away and I lay in bed, wide awake, knowing this dream was trying to tell me something.
I was determined to find out the message. I decided that I was not going to allow myself to get to sleep until I understood this dream. To read on, click here.
Prophecy, fortune telling and the truth.
Time: 1:25 PM
Date: 24th March 2008
There have been a handful of stories that have changed my life. The following has been one of them. It offers insight into both the dangers and the upside of a mysterious discipline: Fortune telling and prophecy.
The true story:
Wanda had a dream when she was at College in Memphis Tennessee. In this stirring dream she is told repeatedly that she will die in the year she turns 43. Over the years after college, the dream recurred. Again and again, Wanda was haunted with the specific prophecy of her death. To read on, click here.
Time: 11:10 AM
Date: 25th February 2008
Obsession with your future.
Almost everyone tries to figure our their future. “If only I knew exactly where I should be heading.” “I seem a little lost in terms of my direction”. Perhaps you’ve heard yourself or others make this class of statement.
We live in a culture where it is assumed that you should almost always know where you are going. Unsure about your future? Be prepared to have your character or even your sanity come into question. Without a goal many will perceive you as a ‘drifter’ or a ‘lost soul.’
Goals can be powerful but the truth is that there are crucial periods in everyone’s life — sometimes spanning years — where a future goal will take us backwards in our development.
When Louis V. Gerstner Jr. led the historic turn around of IBM in 1993, he was asked for his vision for the company. Louis’s reply “The last thing IBM needs right now is a vision.” To read the remainder of this blog entry click here.
Time: 7:05 AM
Date: 22nd January 2008
Motivation is not commitment.
Motivation is not commitment. Too often these concepts are confused.
Motivation is how much you want something. Commitment is what you are prepared to do or sacrifice in order to get the something you want.
‘Oh, I’ve just attended a seminar and I am feeling really motivated!’ ‘I want to live an amazing life and tap my true potential!’ Unless these statements are backed up by an equal dose of commitment, the best thing that can happen to the person making them is for the motivation to drain right out of their system.
Motivation comes with hope and no one likes to have their hopes crushed by reality. 'But this time I am really psyched - I am really going to do it.' Not without commitment you won’t.
No matter how motivated you are feeling in this moment, your motivation will drop away in the future. We’ll have moments when we are psyched. We’ll have periods of deflation. When the deflation kicks in we either crash or we struggle through. Those who struggle through deflation demonstrate depth of commitment.
To read the remainder of this blog entry, click here.
December 2007 entry:
Go into the emotional pain, if you want to grow.
“Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering.” C.G. Jung.
“The body weeps the tears the eyes never shed.”
Anonymous.
I walked into the gym showers after a light workout.
I had felt some emotion bubbling up when I was on the stationary bike. I had held a lot of it inside. As I was in the privacy of my shower cubicle I lowered my attention deeply into my emotional feelings.
Tears began streaming out of me and before I knew it I was on my knees facing the tile floor. I was weeping from the gut. The warm shower on my back soothed me. The running water ensured none of the guys in the change rooms could hear my emotional release.
This emotional pain had built up over the years and remained stored in my body. I was becoming more sensitive to this ‘inner’ pain. In the months that followed, I also became more aware of the stored emotional pain in those around me.
It wasn’t long before I could place my attention and sense the density and the depth of the pain in different people – strangers included – in a second or two.
Some of these people were carrying a great deal of emotional pain. This emotional pain had led to all sorts of complications including addictions and a history of strained relationships, anxiety and depression.
To read the remainder of this blog entry, click here.
